Why women have affairs?
Chat about a loaded subject that no one wants to chat about, that’s it. Amusing thing, affairs have been going on ever since millennium. Extramarital affairs can be loaded with evils, cause sadness, and other problems. Also you should wrap your maind around all the other issues, there’s that truth and honesty matter, money, age dissimilarity, religious background, remorse, and on and on. I expect there will be some strong opinions about some of this.
For the intention of this article I will classify an affair as a long term, maybe months long relationship of a sexual nature between two people of whom one or both are married to other persons, lonely wife looks for dating.
Why do married people have affairs? There are as many answers as there are seek affair. I am sure mostly though it is only the human state, the need for liking, belonging, to be wanted and cared for, the caring for others and wanting to be loved and respected. Here are a few reasons I have run across.
Biologically we as humans are all sexual beings. Nature has us set up to reproduce, to have sex. Sex is pleasant and fun, and sex makes us escape the world for a small period of time. This excitement exists for whatever amount of time we are able to keep the adrenalin levels elevated enough. Some people can switch the wish on and off, some are excellent at controlling it and others are so-so at best. Though we all have it, young and elder, able bodied and not so able. It is the Human condition. For some of us it is the sex act itself that drives us. For some of us it is the excitement of the hunt. For some of us it is the seduction, for some it is the love for another person, for some it is the longing to be appreciatedloved, for some it is the entire romance thing. These needs and yearnings can be so strong they overcome the taboos humanity has erected against married dating. For many individuals the yearnings will overcome their doubts and make them risk the anger of not only their relatives, but the public as well. So why, what is the means?
Sex Addicts, possibly some of us are. Sex is terribly pleasant, better then drugs, a natural high. If you are in this group of biologically obsessed sex addicts and can find away to have an affair and not harm your spouse or anyone else? You would need to minimize the threat you are taking. If you have the approach that a good affair is one that is beneficial to everyone, then good luck.
No love at home, or no romance. I think this is the largest cluster, gigantic in fact. There are many couples whose marital relationships is over, but they are comfy in the manner they live, and upsetting the extended families is not on their list of things they wish to do. You love your other half but there is no romance. Then there are the kids to look after. Your assets are so entangled. You need the medical insurance, and so on. There are a lot of reasons to be as a family besides love and sex.
Bodily reasons, there are some people who can not have sex. They have physical circumstances that stop them implementing the sex act, at least not with their spouse. An extra-marital affair occasionally solves the difficulty while keeping the marriage whole.
Ignoring, sadly this is a regular reason I fear. One or the other, usually the man is sexually neglecting his spouse for a multitude of reasons. As a man I actually am thankful to you guys neglecting your girls and making them accessible to us guys of romance, making them “milf wives” Though I still think it is despicable that you are neglectful. Also there is the spouse who is neglectful until the wife or husband has an affair, then they condemn them for doing so, when they where the catalyst. Those who neglect, then condemn, are not just neglectful, but evil.
Something is just misplaced in the marriage, I can not put my finger on it, but its not there. Probably its romance that is missing, maybe it is a lack of love, maybe compassion is gone, could be it is the intimacy, maybe neglect. Could be we have simply developed separately, our common concerns diverged. Could be it is that what I want, and what I want to do the rest of my life, is diverce of what you want. Could be I just don’t know what I want from the marriage anymore. Maybe, just maybe I miss that feeling that when I am with you, it just feels right.
The major reason people give is, they seek the passion that is missing and so very much longed for.
There are other reasons, the feeling of power, to get away, for economic gain, for revenge and so on. I am sure there are more reasons why people have affairs then these. I only stop because if this gets too long no one will read it.
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